I think my biggest pet peeve in life is when people play victim, especially when they put themselves in that particular issue or situation. It’s extremely discouraging to see people be negative or surround themselves in a negative space and complain that their life is miserable.
In 2017, I made it a goal to stay absolutely motivated and positive and I feel that there are some things I’ve done that help keep me on track. Whatever happens in life, there’s always someone who has it worse and that’s what I continually keep in the back of my mind. So the following few things are how I stay motivated and positive, especially when life throws me some hurdles.
If you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, do whatever you can to change that, especially if it’s early in the morning and you have yet to start your day. I find that when I wake up feeling angry or overwhelmed, I think of something that would change my morning from negative to positive. A message to or from my partner, finding something to look forward to in the week, a hearty breakfast or even listening to music. The way your morning goes, is usually a foreshadow of how your day will go – a good morning = a good day (usually, anyways).
I try and set mini goals for myself everyday – almost like a to-do list. This helps me stay motivated. Having a job that requires creativity definitely helps me get through my day quite easily however for those that have a desk job and can’t wait to finish work at 5, setting mini goals can really help you. Staying on track at work, especially after lunch can be difficult! However if you start work by writing down a list of what you need to start and finish by the end of the day, you’ll keep your mind fully occupied. Remember to space out your list as well to refrain yourself from finishing tasks too quickly.
When something happens in my life that triggers an overwhelming sense of emotion, I let everything out. I’ve learnt that letting go of your emotions and just crying or feeling frustrated is the best way for me to deal with my emotions. From the utter most tragic thing that I’ve experienced to something very minute and silly, I will do what I can to feel better and most of the time, it’s to cry. Turn on The Notebook or Pursuit of Happyness and just bawl my eyes out.
When my grandma passed away in 2016, I was an emotional wreck. I would still cry thinking about her now however what really helped me grieve was thinking about how great her life was and how I was able to spend time with her before she left us.
If you’re going through a break-up, do your grieving but it’s also important to bounce back. Think about how the relationship was great while it lasted, about how it probably wasn’t meant to be and about how you need to take control of your life now. Emotions are uncontrollable so let it out but also know that your life needs to continue.
Art of letting go
As human beings, we all go through experiences that are both good and bad, no matter how rich, how poor, how fortunate or unfortunate we are, we will always go through both positive and negative things in life. The important thing to understand when in a difficult situation is letting go of negative experiences.
Whether you’re going through experiences of broken relationships, deaths, losing your job, failing at school or arguments with your parents, you need to learn the art of letting go. Letting go of the past is what will help strengthen your presence and future. If you feel that you’re constantly moping about the same situation for months on end, you’ll definitely be depressed and miserable for a long time. Pick yourself back up after you’ve let go of your emotions and let go of the situation.
I hope you enjoyed this post and it has helped you look at life from a different perspective 🙂
Cheers to a motivated and positive 2018!